The three secrets of resilient people | Lucy Hone | TEDxChristchurch – YouTube
Parental bereavement is widely acknowledged as the hardest grief to bear. When Lucy Hone’s daughter died suddenly, she describes receiving unhelpful advice from ‘victim’ support organisations that only served to re-iterate her feelings of despair and sense of victimhood. Instead, she says:
“What I needed most was hope. I needed a journey through all that anguish, pain and longing.”
She chose to follow her own training in resilience and bodies of research that provide useful strategies for handling grief, including acceptance of suffering:
Suffering is part of every human existence and knowing this stops us from feeling discriminated against.”
and practicing gratitude:
“Being able to switch your attention to focus on the good has been shown by science to help.”
We need tools that truly support us through the journey of grief, that remind us that we are not alone in our suffering and guide us to remember the good times we shared with those we have lost … that enable us to “live and grieve at the same time”, as Lucy Hone learnt was possible…
Kapshoo was created from the space of grief to bring love and happiness to its users through the collaborative sharing of treasured life stories, memories and moments.
